Waiting for my ship to come in… :)

So, I am 46 years old, single-never married, with no kids.  When you are a lady of this demographic in the world today, people have loads of theories why you’re still single.  Many do not shy away from sharing, not only their theories, but possible solutions and remedies as well.  And there are many out there, I must say LOL!  Through my journey in life, I have had people, many who I just happen to meet after a long time, (mostly those I knew in my 20s) tell me what I am doing [or not doing] that’s the reason I am still single.  Such people never stop to chat and find out why I am still single, they simply jump to conclusions and share their opinions gladly :).  After a while these theories and opinions conflict one another because whereas, A thinks you should run, B is sure you should sit still-that’s going to be the answer hehehehe.  And I realized that if I begin to pay attention to all these well-meaning friends, I will burn myself out.  Fortunately for me, I decided more than a decade ago that I would keep my focus on Jesus, he knows best why I am still single. I would focus on what He is doing in my life, and encourage myself in the Lord.  The end goal of life is not marriage but eternal life through Jesus.  Marriage is bliss [or so I think hehehehe], and I long for it: don’t get me wrong.  However, it has not happened and I am not crying myself to sleep over it.  I have lived and loved, got my heart broken a few times but I still dare to love again.  When all is said and done, loads is happening and I am having a good life still. True, I get discouraged sometimes and think marriage may never be my portion. But that’s when I dig in and remember scripture, and remember that “He has made everything beautiful in its time…” Ecclesiastes 3:11. A time will come when I shall be ‘found’ and things will work themselves out, praise Jesus!

Now, I am a firm believer that I do not need to do any extraordinary stunts to get a husband. I have always maintained that I will meet this dude in the normal curve of life.  I will be doing what I know to do, and somewhere along the way, our paths will cross.  He will initiate this process and I will respond.  We will hit it off, one thing will lead to the next and well… the rest shall be history.  Some of my friends fault this thinking but I have been unshaken in my position because it is my conviction.  Fortunately, in the last 3-4 years, some of my friends have met their husbands in the normal curve of life, and this has greatly encouraged me, especially because they are my age mates. Their stories have been testament that it can happen. And so I wait…

So I am reading through the Bible, and recently read through the book of Ruth, the story of Naomi, Ruth and Boaz.  And the chronology of happenings simply jumped out at me.  Ruth was going through her daily life’s routine when she met Boaz.  She was doing what she knew needed to be done, her daily chores.  She got up, showed up and worked. Along her life’s journey, she met Boaz. He noticed her, took an interest in her and made a few decisions to make her life easier.  Boaz took the initiative and did what he needed to do to get the girl :). She responded to him… and the rest is history.  This really encouraged me because the God they served back then is the same one I do now.  It can happen.  It shall happen :).  I simply need to keep moving, doing what I know to do, keeping my eyes and focus on Jesus as I await my ‘Boaz’ hehehehe.  Thank you Lord!  I am excited about this when I think of it. I know it shall happen and it shall be a great testimony of the Lord’s doing.  Meanwhile, life happily goes on… ;).